双语阅读：态度决定了你的个人魅力！

What are the best ways to make yourself more attractive？

有什么最好的方法能使自己更有魅力？

获得5.8k好评的回答@Josh Fechter：

1.Become a happy-go-lucky person/做一个乐天派。

I went to a local San Francisco bar to hang out with one of my best friends。 My friend was talking to this girl with a body shaped like an hourglass and long black hair peacocked with a purple stripe。

我和一个最好的朋友相约去旧金山当地的一家酒吧。我朋友和一个女孩聊天，她身姿曼妙，长长的黑发焗着扎眼的紫色条纹。

She was sitting next to a guy who wore baggy clothes and didn’t bother to comb his hair。

她身边坐着一个男孩，穿着宽松的衣服，头发都懒得梳。

As a good friend， I decided to keep this guy’s attention so my best friend could mingle undisturbed with the cute girl。 I assumed from the tone of his voice and mannerisms that he was gay。 I barely have to put in energy to wingman this scenario。 Within a couple of minutes， I noticed I was wrong。

作为好朋友，我决定要吸引这个男孩的注意力，以便让我的好朋友能和那个可爱的女孩好好聊聊不被打扰。我从那个男孩说话的语气和言谈举止猜测他是个同性恋，我毫不费力就能搞定。但几分钟以后我发现我错了。

2.This guy had charmed me/这个男孩把我吸引住了。

He had the widest smile and a happy-go-lucky attitude。 He kept complimenting me by telling me great things about my energy and attitude。 “Josh， there’s something about you - such positive energy。 You’re a great guy to hang out with。” I thanked him over and again。 Coming out of my daze， I noticed his hand was on the girl’s leg。 I quickly realized two things：

他有最灿烂的微笑，很乐观的态度。他一直称赞我的精力和态度。“Josh，你身上有某种东西——一种正能量，和你在一起真开心。”我一再地感谢他。我现在看明白了，他的手放在那个女孩腿上，我很快弄明白了两件事：

1）He’s not gay

1）他不是同性恋

2）He knows exactly what he’s doing

2）他很清楚自己在做什么

As we talked further， I asked him， “How do you charm people so well？” He responded， “I’m a professional。” Then he whispered in my ear， “I just picked this girl up at a strip club。” He proceeded to explain how he regularly goes out and meets many women and makes countless new friends。

随着我们聊得越来越多，我问他：“你怎么这么有魅力？”他回答说：“我可是专业的。”然后在我耳边小声说：“我刚把这个女孩从脱衣舞俱乐部接出来。”他继续向我解释他平时怎么出去逛，见很多女孩，然后怎么交到无数新朋友的。

3.I was only partially convinced of his backstory until this happened… / 我对他幕后的故事半信半疑，直到……

We were thinking of jumping over to another bar， so we went outside to order an Uber。 The girl took off to the bathroom。 This wide-smiled guy looked at my best friend and me， and then glanced at a group of girls next to us。 Without hesitation， he walked over and began talking to them。

我们想要换一家酒吧，就出去叫了Uber（打车软件），那个女孩去了洗手间。这个笑容灿烂的男孩看看我最好的朋友和我，然后又看了看我们身边的一群女孩，毫不犹豫地走过去开始跟她们聊天。

I observed。 He used his happy-go-lucky attitude to charm them。 In less than a minute， he had already kissed one of them。 I was stunned。 This guy gets it。 He didn’t pull any fancy lines。 He just acted like the world was on his side。 And by doing so， it was。

我一直观察他。他用他那乐天派的态度吸引她们，不到一分钟，已经吻到其中一个女孩了。我目瞪口呆，这个男人做到了。他没有任何花式撩法，仅仅表现得好像全世界都属于他一样。他这样做了，然后全世界就真的属于他了。

I looked at my best friend。 We laughed。 It’s never about how you dress or comb your hair。

我看看我朋友，我们都笑了。这和你的穿着和头型无关。

Your attitude determines your attractiveness。

你的态度决定了你的魅力。